I totally didn’t see it coming. I mean, it was all planned out to the T. Months of planning, preparation, saving, and stewing over things, gone! Sometimes in life all the planning in the world will not help the situation. That is kinda how this move panned out for me.
I am an extreme planner and most of the time that bodes well for me. Planning meals saves me grocery trips and money. Planning for a budget saves money. Planning my day helps me get things from the to-do list onto the done list. Unfortunately, when a planner cannot plan (for she knows not what lies ahead), things tend to be a total wash.
So it happened on our move that I packed for a month in advance (little by little) and yet still packed up until the moment we drove away from the house. I planned for our culling of large items and many small items to lend us the ability to use the smaller truck…and it didn’t fit. I planned my work, my blog, my life, and yet nothing went as planned.
The lessons that I have learned during this move have been many as well as unexpected.
I hope that you learn from my mistakes, laugh at them, or just enjoy reading this off the cuff post.
Life Lesson #1
Sometimes it is just better to NOT be frugal. Yes, you heard it here first. Sometimes you just need to pay the man, get the job done, and not cause your spouse to be angry with you because he had to move the furniture (after he flatly told you he did not want to move it again!). I am not saying to go and do something ridiculous with your money because it will make you happy (although that is warranted at times), but I am saying that money can make life a bit easier. If, by not paying someone to do a job and instead do it yourself, it is going to cause you or your family serious mental anguish, stress, or some other mental health issue, then just pay up! If you don’t have to perform the task you could also skip it. Moving is necessary, doing it completely DIY style is not.
Life Lesson #2
Life gets busier as the kids get older. I thought a 3 year old was tough…that was until I lived with my sister and her family for a month. Middle and High Schoolers are super busy. I am now not looking forward to older kids (okay, maybe, but only if they do the dishes:)
Life Lesson #3
Okay, so this one is super tough for me to admit, but for the sake of the post I will. I always thought I was the stay at home mom, homeschool your kids, work from home type of mom. Well, I have come to find out that I am not! I need silence (introverts are well known for this characteristic). Furthermore, I cannot keep my head straight with my Little Mister running around. I absolutely believe that I would send my children to school/daycare, at least for a few hours each day, even if I did stay home and work. Don’t judge me. That is just who I am I guess.
Life Lesson #4
Once planning has gone to the side, it is dang hard to get back into the groove. And that has left me in a funk. I feel like I have this amazing opportunity to get stuff done while I am not working, but for some reason I cannot get it accomplished.
Life Lesson #5
Too much free time without responsibility leaves one with too many thoughts in the head. While a time of reflection is good every so often, for it to happen daily is not. I am just going to leave this one there.
Life Lesson #6
Let your husband know that you are still sorry for the moving incident and he will get a sympathy dog. Okay, so maybe your husband will not do that, but mine did. I have been saying no to a dog for too long and he just so happened to catch me when he knows I still feel really rotten. The stars collided…I mean aligned.
Life Lesson #7
Life is too busy. Families that are blessed enough to have one parent stay home are really just awesome!
Life Lesson #8
Choose the top 3 things each day that need to be done completely…only 3. Do those. If you get anything else done, good for you, but don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t get all 15 items on your to-do list crossed off.
I rolled with the punches for over a month. Now, I am finally ready to get back into my groove and of course there is a home to move into and update/renovate list is long. But, now I realize what is important and sanity is high on that list. Sometimes the tough times give us a lot to sit back and ponder. The key is to remember those tough times and not take the easy road for granted.
What about you? Was there ever a tough time in your life that taught you a bunch about how you should be or who you really are?