Chances are you have been there. You were going to your 9-5 (or 7pm-7am in my case) and you just did not love it. You knew that you were meant for more. That you could offer so much more. Don’t lose hope. You can be fulfilled in life while working a job you hate.
2015 was a rough year for me. I stepped into a job that I didn’t love, we had a crazy schedule and barely spent time as a family, Little Mister was a rough 2 year old, I worked nightshift and altogether I was just miserable. We spent almost 1 year in survival mode with no breaks, no dates, and switching off childcare. Sometimes, we just have to do it. We have to put on the big girl panties and just do the work. Around the 1 year mark, things started to change. We (finally) put Little Mister in a mommy’s day out program, I started to read, and I started to get some passions of my own. I started to shift from a super grumpy mama to a driven mama. It was and still is a great feeling.
Now, I have stepped out of my career, but for about 1 year, I was finding fulfillment in my life that was unattached to my work. Yet, it gave me purpose and I felt better while I was at work. I felt like I was doing something great. I want you to feel the same purpose that I felt then and feel even more now.
Take time for yourself
Oh the sacrifices that mothers make. We don’t care for ourselves, we don’t treat ourselves, heck, sometimes, we don’t love ourselves. How sad, right? I mean, we are the single reason that most households actually function. It is time to give that up and start caring for YOU, because YOU are important, YOU are loved, YOU are worthy.
There are so many ways to care for yourself. I started waking at 5am despite the fact that I worked 7pm-7am 3 nights a week. I needed that alone time in the morning so that I could drink my coffee while it was still hot (you know it is true mama), read the bible, pray, and read a book. I love this time alone in the am. You could wake early and workout without littles all over you (yep, it is a fact that as soon as you get on the floor, the kids think you are playing), meditate, do yoga, or just enjoy your own company.
Invest in yourself
Finding a hobby (or 5) was absolutely vital in my coming out of the darkness. I read books, I started sewing, I started a blog. Take time to figure out what you love to do. This is different than just taking time for yourself. You actually need to do something that promotes growth in you. For me, sewing really helped me feel productive and useful. I was creating something with my hands and it was lovely! Reading helped me see that there was potential for a different life that what I was living. Blogging gave me an outlet to share with others while also discovering that I could learn about really tricky “tech stuff”.
What can you do that really helps you grow into a better person? Maybe it is taking a class or maybe you do it at home. I found this extensive list about hobbies and found a few that I thought would be fun too! Whatever it is, just get out there and do it!
Discover a passion
Having a passion project is such a great thing. You will grow because of it and in the process, you may even effect change in others which is always a plus! I casually started with Sseko in 2016 and since then have become a full fledged advocate for ethical fashion. Learning about ethical fashion through the community found within Sseko was pretty life changing actually.
But the most impactful aspect of getting involved with Sseko is that I learned that I am extremely passionate about modern day slavery. Now, through Sseko, I can educate others about slavery, help people make impactful changes in their lives, and help others with their style. It is a passion that really gives me life. You can read a bit more about my Sseko story in this post and also read about what Sseko is.
Invest in others
Now that you have decided that you will discover your own passion, it is time to commit to investing in others through that passion. It is a powerful thing to love yourself, but loving others and loving ON others is world-changing! As noted in the last paragraph, I have a passion for modern day slavery. I want others to know about it and to help make change possible. Recently, I started volunteering with an organization called She Has A Name. They help rescue and recover women in trafficking here in Ohio. I am not doing a lot with them yet, but already I feel even more of a sense of purpose. It is good to be helpful and to feel like you are making an impact. Look online and you will be sure to find plenty of opportunity to serve others.
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” -Mahatma Gandhi
Fast forward to today, I feel like I am making a difference in others’ lives. Through this blog, I hope to encourage and educate women to find confidence in all that they do. With Sseko, I am making an impact on my sisters in Uganda and educating people so that we can collectively have an impact on those who are enslaved today. I no longer go to a job that I do not love nor will I ever again. I have a purpose elsewhere.
As for you, I want you to live your life INSPIRED. If you are working in a job you hate, love your life outside of your job. It is amazing how your life will turn around. Small steps will get you there. Take some time to take care of yourself. You deserve it. Invest in yourself by taking up a hobby. Discover a passion that gets you fired up. And use that passion to invest in others. Just do it!
What are you passionate about? Do you do anything with that passion?